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Christianity, Judaism, and Islam are the religions having Abrahamic faiths. These religions traced the faith belongs to the Abrahamic times. Most of the people from
Posted On: Nov. 22, 2017
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Christianity, Judaism, and Islam are the religions having Abrahamic faiths. These religions traced the faith belongs to the Abrahamic times. Most of the people from these three religions have a strong sense of peacefulness and justice among their communities to which they belong. Judaism is an old religion in human kind from the listed three religions. In contrary to Islam religion or Christian religion, the Judaism is more about right action than right belief. Due to its non missionary sense in the religion, the religion can’456t be viewed to its volumes, but yet it has an effect on its usually immeasurable. The hubs are based on the concept of Tikkam Olam of restoring the earth. The Jew searches are for the initializing of the world or to produce the world worthy of their god Christianity is based on the faiths of Jesus the Christ, who was born on the land of Israel – Palestine for about 2000 years ago. It is a missionary faith with an objective for the transformation of lives of all individuals and communities. At present there are almost one third population is of the Christian religion on earth. This religion believes in one, unique, incomparable God. The concept of one God is then revealed in a relationship of three expressions, i.e. father, son & the holy spirit which is all together known as the trinity. Islam is also an old religion which is also based on the same truth that the God revealed through his all said prophets. Unlike to every religion, Islam is a combination of a religion and a complete way of living. Muslims are the followers of this religion and believes in peace, mercy and forgiveness. The majority of the people of the religion has nothing to do with the extremely grave events which have come to be associated with it. The religion is based on the chain of prophets, which starts from Adam and also includes Noah in it.



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communicationWeek 4 dis 1 Empathy In this week’s readings the author discusses emotional intelligence, a concept which measures people’s ability to understand emotions and express them appropriat...
Posted On: Nov. 20, 2017
Author: Shipra


communicationWeek 4 dis 1 Empathy In this week’s readings the author discusses emotional intelligence, a concept which measures people’s ability to understand emotions and express them appropriately. As you have learned, this ability is crucial to communicating effectively in interpersonal relationships. One of the major components of emotional intelligence is the ability to empathize with others. First, describe in your own words what it means to have empathy. Second, share an example of a time when you found it difficult to empathize with someone. How did you handle the situation? What could you have done differently to empathize with them? Empathy is the ability to see others as someone of our own. It means sharing and understanding the feelings, emotions, needs and concerns of another individual. The act of empathy is selfless as it helps us to learn in depth about people and build strong relationships with them. It is a skill very much in demand and is valuable to us. Quite often we hear phrases like “being in your shoes” or “soul mates” means empathy. Some people also equate empathy with a spiritual or religious connection with another person. Empathizing with others is not an easy task. However with good communication skills and using imagination and creativity, it is possible to generate empathetic feelings. It has been proven that individuals who acquire the skill of empathy can have a better relationship with others and also a greater peace of mind throughout their life. Empathy implies that you understand and are aware of a situation, and that you can even feel pain vicariously, even though you haven't experienced the situation yourself or are not experiencing it at the moment. From my own personal experience, once my girlfriend wanted to share something with me that had really upset her. I could make out from the mascara stains on her face that she had been really upset. She did not even have to utter a word. It was a big jolt to her, as she blurted out that one of her pets had died. The expectant look on her face, once she said this to me, first made me get up and run. I mean what could I say? I could just utter something like “I feel so bad for you. Your life is never easy and every time you turn around something really awful happens to you. I don’t know what I would do if I were you.”It sounded nice at the first instance, but then this is only a good example of being sympathetic. It does not always work in such a situation. This is a different situation that warrants empathy. Basically, examples of feeling empathy are supporting them, validating their feelings and sharing their feelings about the issue at hand. I could say something like, “I understand so much how you feel right now, you are so frustrated and angry. I would be too if I were in your situation.” Reference Davis M.H.(1996) Empathy: A Social Psychological Approach WestviewPress Eisenberg, N. Janet Strayer(1990) Empathy and Its Development CUP Archive Week 4 dis 2 Attraction in interpersonal relationships Chapter Eight of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication addresses the various elements that attract us to other people when we first enter a relationship. It might be just one thing that we like about another person or it could be several things. What do you look for in other people when you first meet them? This could be a potential romantic partner or even a platonic friend. Either way, we each look for or are attracted to certain things when we meet people. Share an example of a time when you developed a friendship/relationship with someone whom you did not get along with at first. What changed for you? When we meet someone for the first time, various factors come into play to form an association or relationship. Two person may get attracted (or on the contrary may not) to each other which ultimately leads to formation of either friendship or romantic relationships. Interpersonal attraction doesn’t just describe the attraction that takes place between different sexes but it also explores the reasons as to why certain people become friends. By understanding the meaning of interpersonal attraction, it is possible to understand why we some people become our friends and others do not. Normally people get attracted to those who have similar values, beliefs, background and interests. This is because there is always a strong desire to feel comfortable around people one is with. In my case, when I meet someone, I look for someone who shares the same values as mine, such as being transparent and honest in dealings. There was this girl whom I met for the first time during my summer camp. She was very friendly and beautiful. I found her smile very captivating and her manner of talk was also very attractive. But at times I found her to be rude and distant in her behavior. It really put me off. After a couple of meetings with her in a group of common friends, I learnt that she was going through an emotional turmoil. In the summer camp, there was an occasion when we were left together alone on a track in the forest. One thing led to another, and we started discussing about ourselves and our likings and disliking. During this talk, she shared with me her innermost feelings. Her father had been very cruel to her mother, and they were undergoing divorce proceedings. She loved her parents but the behavior of her father towards her mother really upset her. I had also been a witness to something similar in my life, when my father ditched my mother when she was carrying me. I shared this information with her, and this developed a bond between us. We could empathize with each other as we had undergone similar kinds of experiences. References Dwyer D. (2013) Interpersonal Relationships Routledge Nicotera Anne Maydan(1993) Interpersonal Communication in Friend and Mate Relationships SUNY Press



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Actually one of my strong suits is communication. This is something that I have been commended for in my friendships and relationships. However, if I am being forced to
Posted On: Nov. 20, 2017
Author: Shipra


Actually one of my strong suits is communication. This is something that I have been commended for in my friendships and relationships. However, if I am being forced to choose a weak area that I am strong in, that I can forcibly admit needing to improve my presentation skills when communicating with others in business. “Presenting your ideas and opinions so that they are recognized” (Sole, 2011, p.39).This skill set is mentioned in the people skills category and its formal title is called appropriate assertion skills. Sometimes when I am presenting an idea in business I can be too detailed and always wonder if I am maintaining the interests of the audience. As an entrepreneur and aspiring author I am always presenting ideas to someone. Too have someone get your message perfectly on the first delivery attempt would be a stupendous achievement to mankind I’d say. It will also save you from having to rephrase the same message again. Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. Shay Acquiring presentation skills is the first step to successful communication. It is thrilling to put across your ideas across to the other person and get it accepted by him. If acceptance takes place at the first instance, without further argument or explanation then, it is the most ideal thing to happen. It would be called an achievement because one will not have to re- phrase the words It is definitely important to develop presentation skills in business presentations. One has to put across his ideas and views and get them accepted by the other party. These skills are the basics of communication.



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Article Critique: Masking Poor Communication “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication.” The above article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication
Posted On: Nov. 20, 2017
Author: Shipra


Article Critique: Masking Poor Communication “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication.” The above article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication “clearly brings out the fallacy of the statement. As has been proved by research, people who think they just because they are close to each other or are related, they understand one another much better than strangers is not true at all. Several instances of the misleading notion about the above statement have been proved by people themselves. According to Boaz Keyser “people commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends better than strangers.” This is the most idealistic situation that is humanly impossible to achieve. One of the reasons is our perspective of looking at a situation. It varies from person to person and depends, to a large extent, upon our gender, cultural upbringing, our expectations from the other person we are dealing with and so on. From my own personal example, I can communicate much better with my friends but not with my spouse. With my friends, there is no expectation of any kind. It is just a matter of friendship that is all. But with my spouse, the difference in communications crop up due to our expectations from each other. Another reason for miscommunication between us because conversation between women and men are crosses – cultural in nature. In other word, men and women look at a situation from different perceptions and viewpoints. That is the reason they communicate in a different manner. For example, I know a couple who are married for the last 35 years, but their biggest problem is that of communication. They could never communicate with each other and convey the real meaning of their thoughts. In the case, the man’s childhood was spent alone in the house as his father used to work from early morning to late evening. He as a child used to be asleep while his father left for work, and by the time he came back from work, son used to be fast asleep. So there was not communication at all between the son and father. The son never understood the power of communication as he was growing up. There was no communication of affection shown between the son and the father. When he grew up and started dating his girl friend, he never felt the need to communicate as he had never experienced what a good communication can do for oneself. In the beginning, as he was young, he thought it is OK not to be good communicators. Just the presence of the two people who are in love is good enough for communication. He never felt the need. Once they got married, he used to frequently hear the dialogue from his wife, “You never communicate with me”. If they had a problem or argument, he would listen for a few minutes and simply walk out for a while from the house. He thought if he left and came back later, everything would be alright. As years went by, he kept doing the same thing again and again. His wife had a nature of sitting down and talking things over and sort out the problem. So every time, he left the house, more problems and tensions got created between the two. He thought after all these years of staying together, his wife would just understand his feelings and emotions. It was really tough for them to survive and not only their family life, but their children also suffered quite a lot due to continuous bickering between the two. Eventually they had to take help of a counselor who explained to them the problems that could arise due to lack of communication. When someone holds a grudge and bitterness towards you an opaque wall gets created between the two and there is no way to communicate with them. The earlier one realizes the importance; the better is it for them. It is beneficial for their own happiness and also of those who are in touch with them on a daily basis, whether it is personal life or at the work front. In such a situation, it is better to sit down and talk things over and look at the situation from other’s perspective. References Garcia H.F. (2012) The Power of Communication: Skills to Build Trust, Inspire Loyalty, and Lead Effectively FT Press Castells M. (2013) Communication Power Oxford University Press



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Communication Quiyanna Ramirez I agree with you that depending on the audience your communicating with them
Posted On: Nov. 20, 2017
Author: Shipra


Communication Quiyanna Ramirez I agree with you that depending on the audience your communicating with them can be different in many ways. Yes I do take into consideration my audience when communicating to a particular group. It is much easier to speak and present what we will be doing in the classroom to a group of Kindergartners compared to a group of my peers. When I speak to the children when I'm in the class room helping a teacher. It is so much more relaxed then with my peers. When I'm with the adults I get nerves and I just do not want to speak in front of them at all. I would rather stay all the way in the back in a corner. With children I have more fun because it is fun and your teaching someone. With children and adults I have to keep them interested in what I am talking about. I have to give the appropriate amount of details so they will stay interested and focused on my presentation so neither side will lose interest in my presentation or what ever might be talking about. Efforts required keeping people interested is the same, whether one is addressing children or adults or peers. It is just a matter of perception that is all. The methodology may be different, for example, with children one can a lot of liberty and can also make mistakes as they are also learning. But with peers, it is not possible to behave in the same way. More preparation is required when communicating with them it does not mean preparation is not required when dealing with children. One has to understand their language their level of understanding and act accordingly.



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Dis1 Learning New Skills Many people believe that communication skills are easy and should come naturally. As we have learned this week, learning effective interpersonal communication skills
Posted On: Nov. 20, 2017
Author: Shipra


Dis1 Learning New Skills Many people believe that communication skills are easy and should come naturally. As we have learned this week, learning effective interpersonal communication skills requires a lot of time and practice. Of all the skills listed in Chapter Two of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, which skill(s) are you most excited about improving in your interpersonal relationships? Why do you feel that you need to make improvements in this area? Based on the course material that you read this week, what are some ways that you plan on using these skills in your everyday life? Contrary to what people believe about communication skills, it is not an easy task. One has to spend a lot of time and effort to acquire interpersonal communication skills. It is an art that has to be learnt and practiced. Of all the skills listed in our text book, I consider Listening Skills to be one of the most effective one. This is a skill we all know is good but seldom practice. By communication skills, we tend to make conversation without realizing the importance of listening. We may claim to be great listeners but in fact that is not so. Listening requires focus and attention, and failure to listen is one of the key causes of miscommunication. (Section 2.5 Interpersonal Communication Skills). I personally feel I need more improvement in this area. Many a times I feel I am paying attention but in fact my mind keeps on wandering around and suddenly when the person who is talking points this out , I feel embarrassed. The course material has taught us the importance of listening skills and I am going to practice it in my everyday life. For example, I am going to focus on what my colleagues have to say, without interrupting and making eye contact and nodding in agreement when necessary as well asking questions when in doubt. This way, the person who is talking would also feel happy that his view point is being understood. Reference Kratz (2005) Effective Listening Skills McGraw-Hill Education, Dis2 The “Self “and Communication In Chapter Three of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, the author lays out many psychological concepts concerning the “self.” How do all these concepts relate to interpersonal communication? Also, give an example of how your “self-concept,” “self-image,” or “self-esteem” has affected your interpersonal communication. In our text book, the author says “Intrapersonal communication refers to the internal communication within and to yourself” (Section 3.1 Who Are You?). This sounds quite strange, but is true. We all talk to ourselves which is quite normal. We do it unconsciously without realizing it, or without giving it any serious thought whatsoever. There are a number of ways of communicating with self. If we are asked to do an exercise of writing about ourselves and make a list it would represent self- concept. It is defined as an appraisal of our own attributes and competencies. Self image, self- esteem, self – concept are all important aspects of understanding oneself. How we view ourselves affects our communication with others. For example, a person with low self- esteem would always feel himself to be inferior and when he opens up conversation with others, his method would invariably be apologetic. Similar when we take certain actions such as frowning, making verbal comments, the way we dress up, makes other form opinions about us. When these are communicated to us, we get influenced and behave to act accordingly. To give an example, I always used to pass comments on appearance of others, the way the dress up or behave. My friends noticed this behavior of mine and termed me to be judgmental in nature. When I heard this comment of theirs, I started believing in this trait of mine. It was only later on in life that I realized that this comment of my friends was not a compliment, but a criticism of sort. Thus, I realized my mistake and slowly started correcting myself. References Powell J. (2005) Self-Esteem Black Rabbit Books



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communicationWeek 4 dis 1 Empathy In this week’s readings the author discusses emotional intelligence, a concept which
Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
Author: Shipra


communicationWeek 4 dis 1 Empathy In this week’s readings the author discusses emotional intelligence, a concept which measures people’s ability to understand emotions and express them appropriately. As you have learned, this ability is crucial to communicating effectively in interpersonal relationships. One of the major components of emotional intelligence is the ability to empathize with others. First, describe in your own words what it means to have empathy. Second, share an example of a time when you found it difficult to empathize with someone. How did you handle the situation? What could you have done differently to empathize with them? Empathy is the ability to see others as someone of our own. It means sharing and understanding the feelings, emotions, needs and concerns of another individual. The act of empathy is selfless as it helps us to learn in depth about people and build strong relationships with them. It is a skill very much in demand and is valuable to us. Quite often we hear phrases like “being in your shoes” or “soul mates” means empathy. Some people also equate empathy with a spiritual or religious connection with another person. Empathizing with others is not an easy task. However with good communication skills and using imagination and creativity, it is possible to generate empathetic feelings. It has been proven that individuals who acquire the skill of empathy can have a better relationship with others and also a greater peace of mind throughout their life. Empathy implies that you understand and are aware of a situation, and that you can even feel pain vicariously, even though you haven't experienced the situation yourself or are not experiencing it at the moment. From my own personal experience, once my girlfriend wanted to share something with me that had really upset her. I could make out from the mascara stains on her face that she had been really upset. She did not even have to utter a word. It was a big jolt to her, as she blurted out that one of her pets had died. The expectant look on her face, once she said this to me, first made me get up and run. I mean what could I say? I could just utter something like “I feel so bad for you. Your life is never easy and every time you turn around something really awful happens to you. I don’t know what I would do if I were you.”It sounded nice at the first instance, but then this is only a good example of being sympathetic. It does not always work in such a situation. This is a different situation that warrants empathy. Basically, examples of feeling empathy are supporting them, validating their feelings and sharing their feelings about the issue at hand. I could say something like, “I understand so much how you feel right now, you are so frustrated and angry. I would be too if I were in your situation.” Reference Davis M.H.(1996) Empathy: A Social Psychological Approach WestviewPress Eisenberg, N. Janet Strayer(1990) Empathy and Its Development CUP Archive Week 4 dis 2 Attraction in interpersonal relationships Chapter Eight of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication addresses the various elements that attract us to other people when we first enter a relationship. It might be just one thing that we like about another person or it could be several things. What do you look for in other people when you first meet them? This could be a potential romantic partner or even a platonic friend. Either way, we each look for or are attracted to certain things when we meet people. Share an example of a time when you developed a friendship/relationship with someone whom you did not get along with at first. What changed for you? When we meet someone for the first time, various factors come into play to form an association or relationship. Two person may get attracted (or on the contrary may not) to each other which ultimately leads to formation of either friendship or romantic relationships. Interpersonal attraction doesn’t just describe the attraction that takes place between different sexes but it also explores the reasons as to why certain people become friends. By understanding the meaning of interpersonal attraction, it is possible to understand why we some people become our friends and others do not. Normally people get attracted to those who have similar values, beliefs, background and interests. This is because there is always a strong desire to feel comfortable around people one is with. In my case, when I meet someone, I look for someone who shares the same values as mine, such as being transparent and honest in dealings. There was this girl whom I met for the first time during my summer camp. She was very friendly and beautiful. I found her smile very captivating and her manner of talk was also very attractive. But at times I found her to be rude and distant in her behavior. It really put me off. After a couple of meetings with her in a group of common friends, I learnt that she was going through an emotional turmoil. In the summer camp, there was an occasion when we were left together alone on a track in the forest. One thing led to another, and we started discussing about ourselves and our likings and disliking. During this talk, she shared with me her innermost feelings. Her father had been very cruel to her mother, and they were undergoing divorce proceedings. She loved her parents but the behavior of her father towards her mother really upset her. I had also been a witness to something similar in my life, when my father ditched my mother when she was carrying me. I shared this information with her, and this developed a bond between us. We could empathize with each other as we had undergone similar kinds of experiences. References Dwyer D. (2013) Interpersonal Relationships Routledge Nicotera Anne Maydan(1993) Interpersonal Communication in Friend and Mate Relationships SUNY Press



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Article Critique: Masking Poor Communication
Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
Author: Shipra


Article Critique: Masking Poor Communication “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication.” The above article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication “clearly brings out the fallacy of the statement. As has been proved by research, people who think they just because they are close to each other or are related, they understand one another much better than strangers is not true at all. Several instances of the misleading notion about the above statement have been proved by people themselves. According to Boaz Keyser “people commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends better than strangers.” This is the most idealistic situation that is humanly impossible to achieve. One of the reasons is our perspective of looking at a situation. It varies from person to person and depends, to a large extent, upon our gender, cultural upbringing, our expectations from the other person we are dealing with and so on. From my own personal example, I can communicate much better with my friends but not with my spouse. With my friends, there is no expectation of any kind. It is just a matter of friendship that is all. But with my spouse, the difference in communications crop up due to our expectations from each other. Another reason for miscommunication between us because conversation between women and men are crosses – cultural in nature. In other word, men and women look at a situation from different perceptions and viewpoints. That is the reason they communicate in a different manner. For example, I know a couple who are married for the last 35 years, but their biggest problem is that of communication. They could never communicate with each other and convey the real meaning of their thoughts. In the case, the man’s childhood was spent alone in the house as his father used to work from early morning to late evening. He as a child used to be asleep while his father left for work, and by the time he came back from work, son used to be fast asleep. So there was not communication at all between the son and father. The son never understood the power of communication as he was growing up. There was no communication of affection shown between the son and the father. When he grew up and started dating his girl friend, he never felt the need to communicate as he had never experienced what a good communication can do for oneself. In the beginning, as he was young, he thought it is OK not to be good communicators. Just the presence of the two people who are in love is good enough for communication. He never felt the need. Once they got married, he used to frequently hear the dialogue from his wife, “You never communicate with me”. If they had a problem or argument, he would listen for a few minutes and simply walk out for a while from the house. He thought if he left and came back later, everything would be alright. As years went by, he kept doing the same thing again and again. His wife had a nature of sitting down and talking things over and sort out the problem. So every time, he left the house, more problems and tensions got created between the two. He thought after all these years of staying together, his wife would just understand his feelings and emotions. It was really tough for them to survive and not only their family life, but their children also suffered quite a lot due to continuous bickering between the two. Eventually they had to take help of a counselor who explained to them the problems that could arise due to lack of communication. When someone holds a grudge and bitterness towards you an opaque wall gets created between the two and there is no way to communicate with them. The earlier one realizes the importance; the better is it for them. It is beneficial for their own happiness and also of those who are in touch with them on a daily basis, whether it is personal life or at the work front. In such a situation, it is better to sit down and talk things over and look at the situation from other’s perspective. References Garcia H.F. (2012) The Power of Communication: Skills to Build Trust, Inspire Loyalty, and Lead Effectively FT Press Castells M. (2013) Communication Power Oxford University Press



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I agree with you that depending on the audience your communicating with them
Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
Author: Shipra


Communication Quiyanna Ramirez I agree with you that depending on the audience your communicating with them can be different in many ways. Yes I do take into consideration my audience when communicating to a particular group. It is much easier to speak and present what we will be doing in the classroom to a group of Kindergartners compared to a group of my peers. When I speak to the children when I'm in the class room helping a teacher. It is so much more relaxed then with my peers. When I'm with the adults I get nerves and I just do not want to speak in front of them at all. I would rather stay all the way in the back in a corner. With children I have more fun because it is fun and your teaching someone. With children and adults I have to keep them interested in what I am talking about. I have to give the appropriate amount of details so they will stay interested and focused on my presentation so neither side will lose interest in my presentation or what ever might be talking about. Efforts required keeping people interested is the same, whether one is addressing children or adults or peers. It is just a matter of perception that is all. The methodology may be different, for example, with children one can a lot of liberty and can also make mistakes as they are also learning. But with peers, it is not possible to behave in the same way. More preparation is required when communicating with them it does not mean preparation is not required when dealing with children. One has to understand their language their level of understanding and act accordingly.



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After reading chapter 4 of the text book I have learned several ways to improve my verbal communication. One way is to improve on my vocabulary by learning more
Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
Author: Shipra


After reading chapter 4 of the text book I have learned several ways to improve my verbal communication. One way is to improve on my vocabulary by learning more words. To be able to use different word choices. Reading as much as possible can be an excellent way to build your vocabulary (Sole, 2011). I have not been a solid reader in my life. I lose my place often and if someone is talking in the background of where I am, I lose track of what I am reading. I do think that people who read often have a better vocabulary. I have made a goal to increase the amount of reading I do and in order to make it a successful goal I am going to only read when I know I have the free time to do so, when the kids are at school. I will start doing just fifteen minutes a day and before long I hope to increase this. This will help me to build my vocabulary and help me to train my mind to stay focused. Another way I will improve is to adapt to the type of conversation I am engaged in. Make sure you are using language that is formal or informal, as the situation requires, and language that is not biased or unethical (Sole,2011). I will also make sure that I words that are easy to understand and make clear statements. Feedback is an important part of the communication process, so check to make sure that others understand your messages and elicit feedback to ensure that they understand your messages (Sole, 2011). The person that I have had a hard time communicating with is my husband. His family is different and tend to jump to conclusions easily. I might say something like, "I am not happy with how this cake turned out". And he would raise his voice and tell me to stop being so negative. This has taken me years to adjust to. I you cannot say something nice then don't say anything. The skills I have learned from chapter four will help me with my husband. Learning to word things and adapt to his type of communication will help with our combined verbal communication. There is always room for improvement and I think this will help us both. Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc Reading definitely helps us in improving our vocabulary. The more we read the better we are aware of the world around us. Reading does not mean that we should sit at a place for hours together and concentrate. Even fifteen minutes a day is good enough. The time can be increased gradually, depending on how busy one is. What matters is the intention, the motive to learn and acquire knowledge Communication is an important part in our life. Instead of deriving negative meaning from the statements of other, why not look at the positive side. For example when husband scolds sying why be negative, he is trying to be helpful and not criticizing. Perhaps the manner or tone of speech may hurt the listener but then both have to work on it to improve the pattern of communication.



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Week 2 Dis 1 Improving Verbal Communication In Chapter Four of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal
Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
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Week 2 Dis 1 Improving Verbal Communication In Chapter Four of Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication, the author discusses the power of language and how verbal communication can affect interpersonal relationships. The author also mentions ways in which you can improve your verbal communication. Explain how you will use these skills to make your interpersonal verbal communication more effective. Use a specific example of someone in your life (past or present) that is difficult to communicate with. Describe how using these skills could improve your communication with this person. One should always make an effort to improve the effectiveness of communication with peers and others with whom we are dealing on continuous basis. Quite often, we come across situations within our company when situations are misunderstood or taken out of context. We all have different perceptions and personalities. Our cultural upbringing also brings out the ways we communicate with others. Chapter 4 of our book gave me ample opportunity to learn new methods that would help me in avoiding or minimizing the conflicts. Prior to reading this chapter I was under impression that my vocabulary and knowledge was sufficient to take care of all the situations in life. However, there is always something new to learn and this chapter provided me insights into what exactly is verbal communication and how can one improve upon the same. To give examples from my own personal experience, some time back my boss came to my desk and casually asked me how things are going. I said fine. The he probed further and asked me to be specific and explain what I meant by saying fine. How are my plans to control the expenses going on? I again said fine. It looked to me as if he was in a hurry and going out for a meeting and I did not want to delay him. So, I just said, everything is fine. He looked at me blankly and asked me to submit the figures of budget and expenses by next day morning. And then he went out. I was stunned and realized the poor choice of my words. I should have been more cautious and avoided saying fine, every time he asked me a question. I somehow misunderstood his question and presumed since he was in a hurry, he wanted a quick answer. So I just spoke whatever came to my mind, just to avoid him. That was a great learning for me, to choose the right words when speaking to superiors in a professional manner. I can also increase my knowledge of using proper words suitable for reach occasion. For example, while speaking with friends, it is all right to use informal communication as they understand me and my body language. Even if I use certain words which they may not like, I can always amend by giving explanation at a later date, to avoid misunderstanding. However, this is not possible or acceptable in an organization when one is speaking with peers and seniors. One has to cautious in choice of words or else we may end up in embarrassing situations. There won’t be a second chance to explain the misunderstandings and they may not be acceptable. References Barker A. (2013) Improve Your Communication Skills Kogan Page Publishers Week 2 Dis 2 Nonverbal Miscommunication Nonverbal communication is one of the most powerful ways that we communicate in our interpersonal relationships. Sometimes, however, we may find ourselves unintentionally communicating something that we do not mean to. This tends to happen quite often in intercultural communication situations (when we are communicating across different cultures). Provide an example of a time when you nonverbally communicated something other than what you meant. Or, use an example of when someone else nonverbally communicated something to you that was different than what they meant. What happened in this situation? Be specific in your example and also discuss what you will do in the future to avoid this. When we speak, we not only use words to communicate our message but also much more than that. For example, we communicate with our hands, our body, our face etc. This type of communication is termed as “non-verbal communication.” This type of communication not only means how we move our body but also includes ho w we make use of our hands, facial expressions, eye contact and tone of our voice. Non-verbal message are sometimes used to emphasize a point. For example, if we want our listener to pay attention to the importance of what we are saying, we might raise our voice to stress. This way we convey the importance of the words we are speaking. We may also lay stress on certain words or a phrase. We might also use our hand as a gesture of showing importance. Sometimes people bang their fist on the desk to show their anger or annoyance or even commitment. These are used to stress the importance of what we are expressing by way of words. These act as complement to the words. Saying “I love you” to someone, accompanied by holding her hand or looking in to her eyes may also communicate the seriousness of the expression. Thus non- verbal communication brings out a touch of meaning that is not communicated by use of mere verbal message. When you smile, wave at someone, or even nod your head, you convey a meaning to what you are saying verbally. To give an example, once I was invited to a party and saw a friend of mine kissing the hand of a lady. I was watching him closely and observing his behavior. Next time, when I met another lady executive, I also stretched out and held her hand and brought it to my face to kiss her hand. She immediately drew her hand away and her companion looked at me menacingly. Not releasing my mistake I simply murmured my apology and drew myself away from the couple. I was too confused to speak. Later on, a friend of mine explained to me that the couple whom I had met were from India and in Indian culture, it is not proper to hold and kiss the hand of lady. It was a great learning for me. From next time I made it a point to know the nationality of the couple whom I meet before I greet them. Reference Knapp M.L. (2012) Nonverbal Communication in Human Interaction Cengage Learning



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Last week my husband and I were watching television and just as our favorite show came on, the phone rang, the teenager came in the door telling us all about some
Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
Author: Shipra


Last week my husband and I were watching television and just as our favorite show came on, the phone rang, the teenager came in the door telling us all about some drama in his life and then the cat jumped up in front of the television, blocking our view. My husband tossed this arms up in the air and turned off the television, he looked at me with a red upset face and I felt he was blaming me for all that was upsetting our show. I looked at him and told him that I did not do anything and I was upset he acted that way. He explained to me that he was not made at me or upset with me but frustrated that we were unable to have a nice evening together, to watch our program and do the things we wanted to do with our time. When he told me this it was in a very kind sweet way, he said it softly and he held my hand while doing it. I misunderstood his nonverbal actions and this could have ended badly, maybe in an argument. In the future I will make sure I ask my husband how he is feeling or why he offered nonverbal communication the way he did but I won't assume his nonverbal action was negative towards me. Some of these messages are conscious and intentional, but many are innate aspects of your unique voice or body that you cannot change (Sole,2011). I must understand that because nonverbal communication can be innate, it is important that I allow my husband to be who he is and I must grow to understand him in this way. Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc While talking or listening to people, it is important to pay attention to both verbal and non-verbal communication. Many a times we form opinion of others based on verbal or non- verbal communication. The person may not have been conveying the meaning that we take for granted or feel. It was good that the husband understood the anguish of his wife and explained to her, the meaning of his actions and conveyed to her that he was not upset at her but at the situation which turned out to be bad and he was not able to enjoy the evening. Both the parties in a conversation should focus on what is being conveyed verbally and also give a thought to the circumstances under which words are spoken. Then only the confusion can be eliminated.



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Article Critique: Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communication
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Article Critique: Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communication The article “Can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages” deals with the problem of communication in marriages. It has some good points to learn. Sometimes people feel that they are very busy and have to time to communicate and it is alright as they feel their partner would understand. But in marriage it is very important to keep the channel of communication open and not take your partner for granted; howsoever busy you may be (Kellis2007). By not communicating in marriage, can lead to serious misunderstandings, marital problems and ultimately may result into divorce also. The social penetration theory “suggests that self-disclosure deepens, in stages, as relationships develop” (Sole, 2011, Chapter7 Summary, Key Terms). I fully agree with this theory because as we get to know someone more closely we are able to disclose our thoughts to him more openly. However it is important to feel close to that person and also have trust before one can reveal certain information about oneself. I can relate to this article on self-disclosure in my own relationships. Trust issue has played a very big role in my past relationships. I had a tough time in disclosing information about myself and did not get close to my partner in having an intimate relationship. On analyzing it in depth, I realized that it was due to lack of trust in the person I was involved in. One of the reasons as to why my relationship did not work out was due to lack of communication. My own experience indicates that self – disclosure is very important and has direct relation with having a satisfactory relationship. We were going steady for more than four years and had come to a point where we started taking each other for granted. On several occasions, my fiancée dropped hints, which I took very causally. I also started doubting her intentions and did not share my feelings with her. There was miscommunication which none of us bothered to clear out. I would not put entire blame on me though, because to some extent, my partner also had equal responsibility to work out an arrangement to make our relationship work. However, the fact is that misunderstanding took place and we both allowed it to continue to a point where we had to break our relationship and part with bitter feelings. “Research consistently has shown a link between happy marriages and "self-disclosure," or sharing your private feelings, fears, doubts and perceptions with your partner” (Schoenberg, 1983). One has to keep in mind that men and woman are different in how they communicate or even how they express their feelings (Wright 2000). In spite of that both men and women have need to communicate and share their feelings. The methods adopted by them may be different. Even though the research is too generic in nature, I do feel that I fit into this. Men and women have their own ways of expressing their views. It is for the partners to realize and accept this difference and adapt accordingly. In order to make any relationship work, both partners have to contribute equally and forget their ego. Then only true relationship would develop and become long lasting. This is the essence of the article. References Schoenberg A. (1983) Theory of Harmony University of California Press, Wright H.N. (2000) Communication: Key to Your Marriage: The Secret to True Happiness Gospel Light Publications Kellis T. (2007) Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage Tim Kellis



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Effective interpersonal communication Introduction Interpersonal communication is the key to building an effective and long lasting
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Effective interpersonal communication Introduction Interpersonal communication is the key to building an effective and long lasting relationship. One has to make conscious efforts to achieve the same. Relationships are built over a period of time. There has to be trust, faith and understanding among partners and colleagues. In our day –to-day life, we all communicate and express our opinions. In the process we try to influence others to our way of thinking and hope that they would see the situation from our point of view. In order to have effective inter-personal communication, one has to follow certain basic and simple principles. By observing them, it is possible to have an effective interpersonal communication with those we are dealing with on a continuous basis. With an awareness and understanding of these principles, one can learn to develop more effective interpersonal communication with parents, partners, work colleagues, and also improve the quality of the same. First of all, we must treat each other with respect. We may not like the way some people talk or behave. But if we need to have some form of communication with them then it is important that we treat that person with respect even if our feelings towards them are anything but respectful. Quite often, while talking to someone, we interrupt the conversation and don’t allow the person to complete his argument or express his point of view. Whenever we talk at the same time as someone else, we interrupt each other and it is almost impossible for effective communication to occur between us. Sometimes we want the right to pass. We do not want to deal with something or participate in something because, for us at that moment, it is just not what we want to do. Quite often we try to cajole, coerce, guilt-trip, emotionally blackmail or volunteer other people to participate in something. Sometimes we may want to pass on something but we still participate and regret it later if we felt cajoled or somehow pressured into participating. When we speak for ourselves, this is sometimes called speaking in the 'I' or using 'I statements'. This is where we own our statements and views about things but do not presume to be able to speak for others. We do not assume they hold the same views and so do not speak in a way that implies others agree with us. Communication often breaks down because words are used that state opinions or interpretations or feelings or thoughts as 'facts'. Confidentiality is strictly practiced by successful persons. It role is not just about respecting the privacy of personal information about someone; it has an additional role in protecting the impartial and without prejudice status of conversation. Conclusion The key to building successful interpersonal communication lies in observing simple down to earth rules. Anyone can follow these rules as they are not at all difficult. The moot point is to believe in these and follow them religiously. References Mayer F. (2007) Effective Interpersonal Communications in a Multi-cultural Work Environment GRIN Verlag West R. Lynn H. Turner (2010) Understanding Interpersonal Communication: Making Choices in Changing Times: Making Choices in Changing Times Cengage Learning, Wood J.T. (2008) Communication in Our Lives Cengage Learning,



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My culture is a mixture of my mother’s generation and my generation. I tend to tell others that I am ‘old school’. My husband and I work together as a team to keep our house
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Author: Shipra


My culture is a mixture of my mother’s generation and my generation. I tend to tell others that I am ‘old school’. My husband and I work together as a team to keep our house in order and to prepare meals. I dress conservatively because I am a mother and my mother raised me to respect my body and as I strive to become a news reporter, I do not want to be known as a provocative dresser. I celebrate all holidays, and birthdays MUST include a piñata. Even though I was raised Catholic, I am more spiritual than religious. I believe life after death but I rather be cremated than buried. I raise my children similar to the way my parents raised me, they respect me, and when it comes to discipline I believe in spanking. My behavior is a mixture of wanting to be private but at the same time I am very social. My mother’s background consist of Mexican and Japanese, though I do not speak Japanese, I understand and read fluent Spanish and am about 75% fluent Spanish. I do not follow all of the Mexican traditions but we do celebrate most and I enjoy all Mexican dishes. Culture is important in communication because lack of education of your own culture and those around you will cause miscommunication. “You carry elements of culture with you into interactions with other people, and these remnants of your cultural heritage strongly influence your communication and relationships with others” (Sole, 2011). An example how my culture has affected my communication with others is my culture practices “saving face”. Whether it is coming from a Hispanic background or the fact that my parents raised me to be more respectable of myself, I have found to be highly respectable of others regardless of age or position. In the military I am faced with people of my age or possibly a year younger, at a higher rank than myself. Even with that being said, I don’t find it threatening like many others do, I applaud them for their success. I have found because I respect others more consistently than my peers, I am seen at a higher level. I have heard in the past people give their ‘perception’ because I was raised Mexican that is why I am so respectful. - Zila Winstead Reference Sole, K. (2011). Making Connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. Cultural upbringing plays a very vital role in how one behaves in public and treats others. Hispanic and Mexican culture teaches people to respect themselves as well as others. Obviously, children raised in these families would learn to respect others and this upbringing would be useful to them while communicating with others. Success has to be appreciated, even if it is of others. Evan food habits do not change substantially when one leaves her own country and settles down in other country. When you show respect to others, you are also treated well and are respected.



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Based on the results of taking the "Willingness to Listen Measure" (Richmond & Hickson, 2001) activity, I have a moderate-low willingness to listen to others. I believe my “Willingness to Listen Me...
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Based on the results of taking the "Willingness to Listen Measure" (Richmond & Hickson, 2001) activity, I have a moderate-low willingness to listen to others. I believe my “Willingness to Listen Measure” score impacts my interpersonal relationships by showing I need to better my listening skills and to enhance the relationships I have with those around me. By reviewing the worksheet, the first couple of questions asked about my willing to listen to boring speakers and it took me back to when I am forced to go to meetings and listen to people speak of information that doesn't pertain to me or what I consider common sense, so it becomes 'boring'. I have no willingness to listen to them speak, which in turn hurts me because sometimes there are things that I could have learned even if it was a 2-minute brief from their 30-minute lecture. I agreed with my results and believe it was accurate about my willingness to listen. After reading Chapter 7 of Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication, I learned a lot about myself and from the examples they gave, I knew prior to taking the activity that I would have a low score. Thankfully I am not below a 50 though I was very, very close. Depending on whom I speak to, I tend to do the following things as stated by Kathy Sole (2011): - listening only for facts and not the meaning behind the words - jump in to correct the error - focusing on the person rather than on the message - becoming distracted - interrupt the speaker to make their own point - finish the other person's sentence - respond prematurely I am able to acknowledge that I am doing these things and I am slowly taking one negative habit and working on it until I consciously stop, and then I am working on fixing another. I am not aware what measure was or was not accurate but a flaw I can automatically tell is all it can tell me is that I’m either a low, moderate, or high listener. It doesn’t break down what strong qualities I hold or what weak qualities I hold. But by what I can see it has it broken down it different areas outlined from what we are taught in Chapter 7, section 4 of our reading; “prejudging the Speaker or the information, interrupting, daydreaming, becoming distracted, focusing on the Speaker instead of the message, becoming emotional and listening only for facts” (Sole, 2011). The ability to listen to others has to be cultivated. It takes time to learn. One should also keep in mind that even the so called “boring” speakers have something to contribute and we can always pick up something of value from them. So it is better not to neglect others and keep an open mind. That is the only way to improve the listening and communication skills.



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Interpersonal Communication in film Hitch Introduction Interpersonal communication is a dynamic form of communication between two or
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Interpersonal Communication in film Hitch Introduction Interpersonal communication is a dynamic form of communication between two or more people. The objective of this assignment is to enlarge the knowledge by exploring some relevant scenes related to the Interpersonal Conflict in the move “Hitch”. The assignment categorizes an interpersonal conflict that was not handled effectively in the movie “Hitch”. Reasons as to why the conflict was not resolved in an effective manner and what could have been done differently in the movie “Hitch” to solve the problem are also discussed. Discussion & Analysis A critical analysis of the movie “Hitch” reveals several different aspect of interpersonal conflict in the movie. I have seen this move a couple of times before but this time I decided to pay more attention to the conflicts that are taking palace between characters and not just the movie as a whole. According to my observation the interpersonal conflict between characters in the movie occurred due to miscommunication and misunderstanding among them. The interpersonal conflict in the movie replicates what happens in real life as well. Several things could have been handled in a different manner if only Hitch and Sara had communicated better. At the end of the movie they did end up communicating together and working things out to their satisfaction. Communication is the most important part in any relationship one cannot have peaceful relationship unless one develop the habit of communication. There is one interpersonal conflict between Hitch and Sara that I would like to talk about. Sara and Hitch were dating one another. Sara found out that Hitch was a “date doctor” Sara then blamed Hitch for being the reason her friend is dumped. When Sara finds out what Hitch does for a living they go out on a date and Sara explains that she knows what he does for a living now. At this point she does not give Hitch the time to explain himself. When Hitch shows up at a speed dating event they briefly exchange words but again they don’t really communicate and work things out. Later Sara goes to Hitch’s house to say she is sorry but he just blows her off. The next time they meet they actually get the chance to talk and work things out. I believe that if Sara and Hitch would have sat down and talked to work things out a whole lot sooner they would have had a better understanding of each other sooner rather than later. He could have explained to her what his job was all about and what he did. When she found out about what he did she would not have been surprised and could have prepared herself better. Sara could have stayed at Hitch’s house and listened to what his explanation of the situation at hand. There are times when things are said that are taken out of context and you wish that you could take them back (Wilmot et al 2013). After watching this movie, I learned to be careful of what is said and how it is said to avoid escalating matters in a relationship. Conclusion In summary, sometimes people are scared to say what they really want to say because of how the other person may feel. The film Hitch is an intense look at interpersonal communication in our modern society. There has been suggestion that the movie thrives on the fact that people can piece together the events and feelings of the characters through their own experiences with interpersonal communication .It is even being used as a method of experiential learning (a method of acquiring knowledge whereby the individual learns through lived experiences, experimentation, simulations, role plays, or viewing videos and film) in classrooms that focus on communication (Cahn 1994). The film deals heavily with the concept of considering self. Self-awareness is described as the view of oneself as a unique person and reflecting on thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. References Wilmot, W. Joyce Hocker (2013) Interpersonal Conflict McGraw-Hill Education CahnD.D. (1994) Conflict in personal relationships L. Erlbaum Associates



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Nonverbal Miscommunication In Chapter Five, according to the author “nonverbal communication can be ambiguous and may be misunderstood”. (Sole, 2011, p. 107).
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Nonverbal Miscommunication In Chapter Five, according to the author “nonverbal communication can be ambiguous and may be misunderstood”. (Sole, 2011, p. 107). Here again the experience of the Southern Folk Life Style; we can talk with both hands, both eyes and both feet to communicate with one and it never fails others think you talking to them. This can sometime get you in shaky conflicts and consequences. Here’s an example: While shopping in Wal-Mart, on a crowded Sunday afternoon two sisters who were holding a conversation at a little distance in the shoe department. One sister said to the other do you think you’re going to get your big feet and those shoes? While another customer were trying on shoes at the same time took the communication to be aimed at her, because she only vision that the one sister hand gestures was being aimed at her. This caused attitudes to change quickly, but it was explain that she was talking to her sister, which were trying shoes on be behind her, which she could not vision while trying on her shoes. With an apology, everything became calm and she understood the communication was meant for someone else. Now what I learn from that, hand gestures and shopping at Wal-Mart you must be extremely careful, shopping holidays is around the corner. (Sole, K., 2011). Reference: Sole, K. (2011). Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education Non- verbal communication is equally important in conveying views and ideas. At times it can also create misunderstanding, especially when proper care is not taken to direct them at the right people. I was watching a lady talking on her cell phone from a distance. There was a glass door between us and I could clearly see expressions of her hand, eyes fingers etc. It was easy to find out that she was trying to explain to the other party her view point in a very strong and affirmative manner. Sometimes, it is quite funny and interesting to watch others when they speak. One can learn a lot about non – verbal communication. In fact, one can to some extent also find out what they are arguing about or saying to each other.



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As I became a member of the workforce I had certain ideas of how professional other employees should be. I was very much shocked when I found that many
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As I became a member of the workforce I had certain ideas of how professional other employees should be. I was very much shocked when I found that many people did not have a professional attitude in the work environment. The term professional is applied to occupations or activities related to work or career that require certain skills, competence, or character. It also refers to the principles of behavior and communication that are appropriate and effective in these settings (Sole,2011). At the age of 18 I lived in a small town and worked at the local Newspaper company. I worked with the circulation department making sure billing was complete and people had updated information for delivery. I was engaged to be married when I was hired and a year later I was married and left for a two week honeymoon. When I returned to work I noticed people were acting different around me, they seemed to be whispering as I walked by them and on my desk there was a raffle container with about forty slips of paper , each neatly folded. I asked my manager who was forty five years old, what is this all about? He calmly told me that work had started a raffle to bet on how fast I would get "Knocked Up"! I was shocked. This was so upsetting to a young woman of nineteen and actually would be to anyone. I told the Editor of the paper, who was a friend of my manager and he told me to lighten up. By Friday I was under so much stress from this whole situation I called in sick and went to the Doctor. My Doctor told me he felt I was under great stress and that I needed to find ways to get control over this and be happy. So, my husband and I spoke and we decided I should quit my job, and I did. Now, I would resolve this issue by filing a complaint with the labor board. This is considered sexual harassment and back in 1989 there were not the same type of support system, legally that we have now. This type of legal support would have solved my problems at work but unfortunately it was not the case way back then. Sole, K. (2011). Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. Maintaining professional ethics is important at the work place. Everyone should make an attempt to adhere to norms and rules set up by the company. It helps in preserving harmony among people so that they can do their tasks efficiently. It is also not correct to get stressed up by the comments of others. There is always a way out, if one is harassed sexually or otherwise. Every situation demands a different approach and depending on the same, one can take a stand and refuse to get worked up. Resigning and leaving a job is an escapist attitude and gives encouragement to unprofessional ethics at the work place.



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When the presidential campaigns were taking place between President Obama and John McCain. There were many heated discussions taking place in cubicles
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When the presidential campaigns were taking place between President Obama and John McCain. There were many heated discussions taking place in cubicles next to mine that I did not feel appropriate. Not only did I not agree with the comments, but some of them were rude towards supporters of the opposing view. Since I had engaged in the same type of discussion outside of work with one of the colleagues they tried to rope me in. I told them I had too much work to do to discuss the topic. Which was true, but in reality, it irritated me that I had to listen to the discussions at all. I chose to listen to music on my headphones to block them out, while I worked instead. In order to keep disagreements to a minimum, it is best to avoid the top three topics: sex, politics and religion (Sole, 2011). Sole, K. (2011).Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc. Sex, politics and religion are definitely the most controversial topics. Each one of us holds our own view about them and would like to stick to the same. Many a times, the controversy reaches a level where it becomes unbearable to a person who believes in ethics at work place and adheres to the principles of professionalism. In such a situation, it is better to remain aloof and not take part in the discussion and get involved in unnecessary criticism.



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