Posted On: Nov. 20, 2017
Psychology The concepts discussed in Chapter 3 (Sole, K; 2011) point out that if you have a negative self-concept/self-image, it affects your communication on many levels. The major one is how you present yourself, whether with confidence or meekness. Someone with self-confidence exudes the aura of that in their body language, choices of words, as well as their focusing abilities. I agree with the textbook when they say that self-image is basically a work in progress and that “You see your-self through the mirror of other people’s eyes” (Cooley, 1902; pg. 52) because I believe that, especially today, society has become so judgmental! When you look at magazine areas in shopping centers, the majority of them portray breathtaking people with the “perfect” bodies. Once we see those types of things, even though we think we are not paying attention to them, subconsciously we can’t help but allow them to absorb some part of our brain. This can influence people that do not have higher self-esteem. When we communicate with others, we learned in chapter 1 of our text (Sole, K; 2011), our body langue inevitably becomes a part of our communication. Negative self-image, via our body language, can change whether we are sending or receiving with a good frame of mind. I used to weigh 350 pounds and in 2000, I had gastric bypass which helped me lose about 200 pounds over the following 18 months. It’s incredible how my self-esteem didn’t really change, but those around me did. To make a long story short, I had taken a young girl shopping for a prom dress and we naturally separated when we entered the store. Two sales representatives completely ignored me. When I approached a third to ask a question, she rudely looked me up and down and told me that they did not carry anything for me there. Boy was I humiliated! Just the look was horrible! Needless to say, we walked out of there without buying anything! Now I can go places and sales people smile and offer to help. I still have the over-weight mindset but I am now and always have been, happy and cheerful. People have naturally gravitated towards me for many years. Outer appearances have never meant anything to me but it is incredible how the judgment of others can really chip away at your internal self. References: “Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication” (Sole, K; 2011) San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education Inc. Negative self concept is bad for one’s image. It is considered the root cause of poor communication. What ultimately matters is how you present yourself to other, either with confidence or with a fear of getting rejected by people. Confidence is reflected with body language, choice of words, and focusing on the main issues. Self image is something that has to be developed by an individual over a period of time. While outer appearance may not matter to an individual, they do carry some significance to others, especially those who develop judgment by looking at the physical structure of people. It is sad but true fact of life. However this can be overcome by oozing out confidence and not getting affected by others opinion.