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Posted On: Nov. 18, 2017
Author: Shipra

Article Critique: Masking Poor Communication “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication.” The above article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication “clearly brings out the fallacy of the statement. As has been proved by research, people who think they just because they are close to each other or are related, they understand one another much better than strangers is not true at all. Several instances of the misleading notion about the above statement have been proved by people themselves. According to Boaz Keyser “people commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends better than strangers.” This is the most idealistic situation that is humanly impossible to achieve. One of the reasons is our perspective of looking at a situation. It varies from person to person and depends, to a large extent, upon our gender, cultural upbringing, our expectations from the other person we are dealing with and so on. From my own personal example, I can communicate much better with my friends but not with my spouse. With my friends, there is no expectation of any kind. It is just a matter of friendship that is all. But with my spouse, the difference in communications crop up due to our expectations from each other. Another reason for miscommunication between us because conversation between women and men are crosses – cultural in nature. In other word, men and women look at a situation from different perceptions and viewpoints. That is the reason they communicate in a different manner. For example, I know a couple who are married for the last 35 years, but their biggest problem is that of communication. They could never communicate with each other and convey the real meaning of their thoughts. In the case, the man’s childhood was spent alone in the house as his father used to work from early morning to late evening. He as a child used to be asleep while his father left for work, and by the time he came back from work, son used to be fast asleep. So there was not communication at all between the son and father. The son never understood the power of communication as he was growing up. There was no communication of affection shown between the son and the father. When he grew up and started dating his girl friend, he never felt the need to communicate as he had never experienced what a good communication can do for oneself. In the beginning, as he was young, he thought it is OK not to be good communicators. Just the presence of the two people who are in love is good enough for communication. He never felt the need. Once they got married, he used to frequently hear the dialogue from his wife, “You never communicate with me”. If they had a problem or argument, he would listen for a few minutes and simply walk out for a while from the house. He thought if he left and came back later, everything would be alright. As years went by, he kept doing the same thing again and again. His wife had a nature of sitting down and talking things over and sort out the problem. So every time, he left the house, more problems and tensions got created between the two. He thought after all these years of staying together, his wife would just understand his feelings and emotions. It was really tough for them to survive and not only their family life, but their children also suffered quite a lot due to continuous bickering between the two. Eventually they had to take help of a counselor who explained to them the problems that could arise due to lack of communication. When someone holds a grudge and bitterness towards you an opaque wall gets created between the two and there is no way to communicate with them. The earlier one realizes the importance; the better is it for them. It is beneficial for their own happiness and also of those who are in touch with them on a daily basis, whether it is personal life or at the work front. In such a situation, it is better to sit down and talk things over and look at the situation from other’s perspective. References Garcia H.F. (2012) The Power of Communication: Skills to Build Trust, Inspire Loyalty, and Lead Effectively FT Press Castells M. (2013) Communication Power Oxford University Press